Laravel ORM is a lot for many relationships with key conditions
I have a table members
      
        
        
        
      
    like this:
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| id | name | ...
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   1   John
   2   Jane
   3   Bill
      
        
        
        
      
    and a relations
      
        
        
        
      
    to preserve their relationship.
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| from_id | to_id | status |
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   1          2     friend
   2          3     friend
      
        
        
        
      
    the first entries say: member # 1 and member # 2 are friends.
member#1 is friend with #2
      
        
        
        
      
    And member#2 is friend with #1
      
        
        
        
      
    .
in Laravel, How can I have a relationship to get all the friends of a member? 
I need to check both columns from_id
      
        
        
        
      
    and to_id
      
        
        
        
      
    , and with this syntax in my model, Member
      
        
        
        
      
    I cannot get it.
Participant model
public function friends(){
    return $this->belongsToMany('Member', 'relations', 'from_id', 'to_id' );
}
      
        
        
        
      
    this only returns records that member_id from_id
      
        
        
        
      
    
I want to get this request if member = 1
SELECT * FROM relations WHERE from_id = 1 OR to_id = 1
      
        
        
        
      
    any help?
thank.
Well this is the wrong answer to my question using Laravel ORM, but I am using this and it gives the same result. Hopefully if anyone else knows the correct answer, please share us here. thank.
Define this method in the Member
      
        
        
        
      
    model:
return Member::join('relations', function($join) use($limit) {
            $join->on('relations.from_id', '=', 'members.id')
                ->orOn('relations.to_id', '=', 'members.id');
        })
        ->where(function($where){
            $where->where('relations.from_id', '=', $this->id)
                ->orWhere('relations.to_id', '=', $this->id);
        })
        ->where('members.id', '!=', $this->id)
        ->groupBy('members.id')
        ->get();
      
        
        
        
      
    So I can use:
$member = Member::find(1); // for example user#1
$member->friends(); // a list of eloquent objects of members.